Learning to Let Go: Tips for Living a More Fulfilling Life

Do you struggle with the need to control all aspects of your life? Do you have a hard time dealing with uncertainty or change? If so, you’re likely missing out on a lot of life’s greatest moments. Controlling every aspect of our lives can be exhausting, and can prevent us from experiencing the joy, surprises, and growth that come with letting go. Mindfulness can be a powerful tool for helping us release our need for control, and embrace life’s natural flow. We’ve put together some mindful tips for letting go of control, and living a more fulfilling life.


Practice meditation

Meditation can be an incredibly powerful tool for releasing control, and living in the present moment. When we meditate, we learn to observe our thoughts and feelings without judgement, letting go of the need to control them. Regular meditation practice can help us develop a deeper sense of inner calm, and a greater sense of trust in the universe.


Cultivate self-awareness

Self-awareness is key to mindfulness, and to releasing control. By paying attention to our thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations, we can identify the areas of our lives where we struggle to let go of control. Once we become aware of our patterns, we can work to shift them. For instance, we might notice that we become anxious when plans change, or that we feel the need to micromanage others. Once we know these patterns, we can work to let go, and trust that life will unfold as it should.


Focus on what you can control

While it’s important to release control over certain aspects of life, it’s also important to maintain some level of agency. Focusing on what we can control – our thoughts, actions, and reactions – can help us feel empowered, even in the midst of uncertainty. By cultivating self-mastery, we can learn to trust ourselves to handle whatever comes our way.


Cultivate gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful force for letting go of control. When we focus on the things we’re grateful for, we shift our attention away from what we can’t control, and towards what we can. Gratitude helps us recognize the goodness in our lives, and to trust that more goodness is on the way. Consider keeping a gratitude journal, or regularly expressing gratitude to loved ones.


Embrace uncertainty

Finally, the most powerful tip for letting go of control is to simply embrace uncertainty. Life is full of surprises, and the more we try to control it, the more we miss out on its wonders. When we learn to accept uncertainty, we open ourselves up to new experiences, growth, and opportunity. Uncertainty can be scary, but it is also full of potential.


Releasing control can be challenging, but it’s also incredibly freeing. When we learn to let go, we open ourselves up to life’s magic, and to our own inner wisdom. By practicing mindfulness through meditation, self-awareness, gratitude, and acceptance of uncertainty, we can release our need for control, and embrace the natural flow of life. So take a deep breath, and trust that all will be well.


Want to know more? Discover more about the benefits of scientific mindfulness meditation in Dr. Elise Bialylew’s book The Happiness Plan 💛


"If we wish to be healthy, happy and clear-minded, we need to upgrade our “inner technology”of attention to meet the demands of our increasingly complex world. That's where mindfulness comes in.."




Elise Bialylew is the author of the bestselling book, The Happiness Plan, and founder of Mindful in May, the world’s largest online global mindfulness fundraising campaign.

A doctor trained in psychiatry, turned social entrepreneur and mindfulness expert, she’s passionate about supporting individuals and organisations to develop inner tools for greater wellbeing and flourishing, and offers workshops and training at The Mind Life Project.

Her work has been featured in the Huffington Post, New York Times and on Australian Television. She was recently recognised by the Australian Financial Review as a 2019 AFR Women of Influence.

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